You Gotta Have HeartBy
Anyone who’s seen the award winning musical Damn Yankees will remember the hopeful Coach Van Buren inspiring his baseball team, the Senators, in the song “You’ve Gotta Have Heart!” He advises his team that there is more to baseball than talented players. In regards to the game, he says…. “All you really need is heart. When the odds are sayin you’ll never win, that’s when the grin should start!” What better time than February to talk about “having heart!”
My coaching mantra is that heart is required in every game of life! This time of the year in particular we celebrate love and that glorious feeling of connection…loving and being loved. If you have a special someone, consider yourself lucky and cherish all the benefits that come with love! If on the other hand you are missing a special person in your life, don’t despair or be discouraged from finding that someone. Be optimistic and proactive as the rewards are numerous and have a long-term positive impact on your life.
Dr. George Valliant, director of the Harvard Adult Development Study, states in his book Aging Well: Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life from the Landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development that our choices in life can override our genetics, financial status and other factors in determining how we age. If we choose to develop and maintain relationships, be they intimate or merely plutonic, we realize greater life satisfaction and remain healthier and happier. Dr. Valliant recommends cultivating new and many friends especially across the generational lines. Surrounding ourselves with people of all ages keeps us young and vital, offers us a sense of value and broadens our social opportunities.
Many of my women clients, who have a full circle of female friends, tell me it is difficult to find good male companionship. Statistically women do out number men, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a good match waiting for you.
So…. You’ve gotta have hope! Musn’t sit around and mope. Nuthin’ half as bad as it may appear, wait’ll next year and hope. When your luck is battin’ zero, get your chin up off the floor. Mister (Ms.), you can be a hero. You can open any door. There’s nothin’ to it, but to do it. You’ve gotta have heart!